If you’ve been out of the mature dating scene for a while, getting back into the swing of things can be a real struggle – for a number of reasons.
Absence from dating has a habit of dulling our abilities in that particular regard, and so when we decide it’s time to get back into the market, the struggle to re-learn the basics of flirting, dating and nursing the beginnings of a relationship can be tough.
At Maturity Dating, we help countless over 50 daters find love each and every day, but there’s no denying that compared to when we were young, the dating scene has changed dramatically.
Of course, we’re older than we used to be, but compared to the 70s, 80s, or even 90s, the attitudes around dating have changed quite dramatically.
Indeed, it’s not the younger generation leading the charge in dating, and whilst we don’t recommend you start acting like you’re in your twenties, there are some valuable things you can learn from those who are immersed in the modern dating scene. So, what are they?
Don’t be Afraid to Date
Traditional British dating is about circling each other, making tiny advances and then finally – finally! – asking the other person out. Our reluctance to go on dates and see how things go is a huge reason why we spend longer outside of relationships than other countries – something we just can’t risk when we’re over 50 and looking for love.
The younger generation have a different outlook on things, taking much less time to ask people out on dates than those of our age. Maybe it’s a confidence thing, or maybe it’s linked to the rise of dating chat apps like Tinder, but when young people sense chemistry, they go for it.
Make Use of Technology
For many in our generation, technology has no real part to play in finding love – after all, it’s not how we did it when we were young.
We don’t need to tell you though that that’s just nonsense. Time moves on and the reason why young people are increasingly using technology to augment their dating lives isn’t because they’re worse at dating than we are, it’s because technology helps.
Online dating websites like ours can help you meet thousands of single people your age near you, and unlike traditional dating, you know that they’re single and interested right off the bat. You can filter by age, body type, skin colour, sexual preferences and so much more.
Online dating doesn’t change the way love and attraction works, it simply makes it that much easier to find those things.
Don’t Rush into Commitment
When we’re over 50 it’s perfectly natural to want to speed up the whole dating thing and get back to where we feel comfortable, but we’d caution against rushing into a formal relationship.
Take the time to really get to know somebody, but keep it casual. Rushing things will only paper over potential cracks and leave you with a less-than-ideal relationship down the line. The younger generation are less likely to have lots of sexual partners, but they keep relationships casual for longer, working out whether it’s the right decision first.