Relationships can be dreadful, messy things – especially at the end. Whether we see it coming or not, the closing stages of a relationship can cause immense damage.
We’d all like to think that it gets easier as we grow older, but that’s not always the case. In fact, it’s often the inverse, with the wounds made taking just that little longer to heal. It doesn’t matter whether it’s a 12-month relationship or a 12-year relationship, finding yourself on the market can be devastating.
When you’re over 50 though, there’s a whole new set of concerns to worry about. Age might be little but a number, but that doesn’t stop us panicking about it.
Here’s what to do when you’re newly single over 50:
Take time to relish your freedom
Being mature, free and single after having somebody by your side for an extended period of time can be terrible at first, but it’s crucial that you learn to adjust before you get back into a relationship.
Simply pinging from one relationship to another offers no time for reflection and no time to really remember who you are, what you want and where your next steps should be. Taking this time out might feel like you’re losing valuable time, but it’s actually the opposite as the time taken now will pay dividends down the line.
Oh, and as a lovely side effect, you’ll not have somebody farting their way through the evening for a little while. Result!
Learn your lessons
No matter who was at fault for the collapse of your previous relationship, there are always lessons to be learned from your most recent relationships.
Your instinct, even as a mature dater, will be to draw the most obvious conclusion ‘men are poison’, ‘everyone cheats but me’, but dig a little deeper and take a look at the little things which contributed to the end. Learning those lessons might be painful, but you’ll come out of the other end of the process a better, more rounded dater, leaving you ready to…
Join an online dating website
Now, we know that many of you are thinking ‘join an online dating website?!’, but the truth of the matter is that today, online dating is more commonplace and easier than it’s ever been before.
With free signups, mature daters can get started with online dating faster than it takes you to read this article and, once there, you’re in an environment exclusively populated by other single, over 50 individuals.
It takes much of the guesswork out of dating and puts the power right back in your hands. Get to know a little about your potential match through their profile and then, when you’re ready, fire off a message to see if they’re interested too.
In our busy lives, it’s by far the best way to meet new people, so what are you waiting for? Love always deserves a second chance.