When you’re out of a relationship physical intimacy can prove incredibly elusive – especially when we’re over 50. Busy personal lives lead to side-lined private lives, and in turn that can lead to a dry patch that sees many of us going without sex for years (sometimes decades!) at a time.
It’s more common than you think, but it’s not a permanent situation, you just need to get out there and meet new people, and with online mature dating, it’s easier than ever before.
Finding yourself sharing a mutual physical attraction with somebody new is a feeling like no other. Even holding hands and experiencing an intimate embrace can thrill when you’ve been alone for a time, but there’s nothing like reacquainting yourself with real physical intimacy.
But what do you need to know about sex over fifty?
You’ll be Nervous – at First
Like anything in life, if you haven’t done it in a while you’re bound to feel nervous. That’s where your decades of experience give you a distinct advantage over the younger generation. You’ve been there, and you’ve done this before. You’re also that much more comfortable in your skin, and your partner will be too.
Take it slowly, ease yourself into things and let the natural chemistry flow – before you know it you’ll be firmly back in your stride.
Venues are Important
The psychological aspect of sex can’t be underestimated, especially if you’ve not had it in a while. It’s for that reason why many of us choose not to have sex in our own homes. With high chances of kids knocking about and often embarrassment about our living spaces, many of us choose to take our intimacy to hotels or BnBs.
These venues are important and choosing the right one can be the difference between a good and bad experience. In general, we recommend hotels over BnBs because they offer a little more anonymity, making you feel less like the centre of attention and therefore, more able to express yourself physically.
You Shouldn’t be Afraid to Talk
If either party is uncomfortable about the leap back into sexual activity then it’s important that you take the time to talk about the issues which are affecting you. It could be concerns over your body, your ability to ‘perform’ and any number of potential worries which have grown in your mind.
Getting these out in the open isn’t anything to be ashamed of, and can put both parties at ease, allowing for better, more open sexual experiences.
You Haven’t Forgotten How to Do It
Just the other day a friend confided in me that it’d been so long since they had sex, they felt like a virgin! It was a light-hearted comment, but the meaning behind it was sincere; they feel like they barely remember how to have sex.
It’s a real, legitimate concern for over 50 daters but we’re here to tell you that when you’re in the moment, things will come back to you faster than you might imagine. Relax, enjoy the moment and let your talents resurface!
If you’re looking to relight that fire and want to meet single over 50s near you, sign up for Maturity Dating today. It’s fun, free and safe!